Friday, October 3, 2014

How to REALLY Survive Your Wedding - 9 Tips!

Yesterday, my Etsy shop participated in a Bridal Hop around our city locally by donating a free MRS tee to be raffled off as a door prize. I wish there had been something like this when I was planning my wedding! In keeping with this spirit, I decided to look back and determine what really helped me survive my own wedding day!

9 Wedding Day Tips
Photo by Sunlit Images

1 - Etsy. Etsy is such a great resource to find unique items. They aren't always the cheapest, but I have never purchased something from Etsy and regretted it. My bridesmaid dresses were from Etsy (as some of you already know) and I can't tell you how many compliments on them I got, and they were only $80. EIGHTY dollars. That is so cheap in the wedding world!

Wedding Photo Tips

2 - Your Photographer. You really need to research this one, and have one that is open to your ideas, open to working with others (videographer, makeup artist, etc), and who is a people person. This is the thing that I booked first, and was the only vendor who I never had to worry about. And I can say I was so glad to see him and let him run the show. This is the area of your budge to splurge!! Pictures are forever!

Photo by Sunlit Images

Wedding Day Tips
Photo by Sunlit Images

3 - Have ideas, be flexible. Definitely sort through pinterest to see what kinds of pictures you want. This made our day run so much smoother since we knew ahead of time what shots we needed. Your photographer should be on top of this already. But be flexible. Sometimes you need to add shots or take away depending on weather, time, etc. And sometimes, what you planned just doesn't work out - see the above example :) But you know what, the picture turned out great just the same!

Wedding Day Advice

Wedding Day Help

5 - Designate Helpers. You will need help on your big day, even if you have a wedding planner. (We didn't use one). One of my bridesmaid's fiancee was in charge of video. It saved us a ton of money, and was a more personal touch since he knew all the bridal party. I could also direct him to get exactly the moments I wanted, and skip the parts I didn't care about. Our extended family also jumped in and helped with some swing issues we had :)

Wedding Tips

6 - A killer Maid of Honor. Seriously people. You need a right hand person. Again, especially if you don't have a wedding planner. Someone to help with last minute errands, calm you down, and make final decisions. Or has my husband would put it "a second boss". Extra points for you here if you can tell which one is me!

How to Survive Your Wedding Day

7 - A Quiet Moment. My husband and I did a first look, and that so helped with the anxiety. But we also had this moment. Where we were in the church with our wedding party alone and just able to take a few breathers before the ceremony actually started. It was nice to be in the church with no one else around. I highly recommend a first look if you are at all considering it!!

Wedding Day
Photo by Sunlit Images

8 - Food! The bridal party always gets hungry. We all know this because we've all been in a wedding or two. Don't forget about feeding your friends! You'll also feel so much better when you get a midday meal before the ceremony starts, and after you've been out in the heat taking pictures all day. This was one thing I was so glad that we planned out in advance!

Wedding Book

9 - A Wedding Bible. It doesn't even matter what brand or book. Just something to help keep track of lists, details, and vendor info. I had 2. And I looked at the little blue book right up until my photographer arrived the day of the wedding. And then I used it again when my sister got married too. Keeping track of all your hard research and planning is so important! 

There you have it. 9 tips and tricks to surviving your wedding day that I learned last year. What is your advice for upcoming brides?

14 comments:

  1. This is a fabulous post! I have to agree with you on almost everything, especially the photographer. I'm not at all disappointed with our photos, but they aren't the kind of photos that I hoped to get - I wanted more of a photojournalistic feel, and instead, we got the very formal, posed shots. In hindsight, I should have done more research and pushed my parents to allow for an independent photographer - they were insistent that we go with a studio. Ryan and I opted not to do a first look, which is totally not the norm these days and depends on the preference of every couple, but I wouldn't have changed that moment when he first saw me walking down the aisle for anything! Your photos are so beautiful!

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  2. Being flexible most definitely helped me survive my wedding as it poured the day of and we were supposed to have our ceremony outside - that's why there always has to be a Plan B!! Also good point to eat - I'm not sure I would have made it without eating a little bite of a sandwich at lunch!! Love this post!! Hope you have a great weekend!

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  3. These are all great tips! I tell all of my wedding couples to make sure to carve out a moment for themselves at some time in the busy crazy day because it will all fly by so fast! Such cute pictures you got!

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  4. Yup, totally agree with all of these! Luckily, we are having a long engagement (1.5 years) so we have not had any too stressful moments, yet. The biggest thing I have struggled with is knowing how to say "no" to a vendor. For example, we contacted three people about singing for our ceremony and I felt terrible having to tell two of them we went with other people!
    www.amemoryofus.com

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  5. I don't know much about weddings but I do know that Etsy is great for all forms of "decorating on a budget". They have so many wonderful products and I love being able to support small business women!
    _Alex
    www.monstermisa.blogspot.com

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  6. What great tips! Yes yes yes, tip #1, the Etsy tip, is so true! It really helped me in my wedding!

    Also, I am teaming up with another great blog, www.2catsandchloe.com for our first-ever Celebrate Southern link up on October 7th. This post would be perfect for the link up! We would love for you to join in on our southern-inspired link up! I hope you can join us!

    http://www.blessherheartyall.com/2014/09/celebrate-southern-link-up-announcement.html

    J @ Bless Her Heart Y'all

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  7. Definitely agree that food, a great photographer and Etsy were huge helps. I also lived and died by The Knot's online checklist. A checklist is key for sure! Aah - glad that is over now though ha. Stressful!

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  8. These are great tips! I'm currently helping of my closest friends plan her wedding and I'll definitely be referring back to this list!

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  9. These are great tips for future brides! I definitely can relate to them. xo

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  10. Totally agree with all of this - especially the quiet moment!!

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  11. Those dresses really are beyond adorable, and for 80!? Amazing!

    Miche from Buttons and Birdcages

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  12. Love all these tips Becky! I can't agree more about the photographer. Even though I didn't LOVE all of our photos (more because of me, than the photographer), our photographer was so flexible and went above and beyond to make sure she got all of the shots we wanted. And I still can't believe the great find in those bridesmaids dresses!

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  13. Awesome post! Your dress is BEAUTIFUL. xo

    Lyss // Life with Lyss

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  14. words of wisdom, becky! Super true and helpful tips, especially on having a helper. My advice for future brides to be is to do what you and your fiance want, not what other family/friends pressure you into doing. If you want a small destination wedding on a tropical beach, then go for it! It's your special day!

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